"1,000 songs in your pocket." Clear, to the point, and something just about everyone in the world would look at and say, "I need to have that! Your online dating success entirely depends on how well you market yourself.If you want to attract a quality partner, you need to show why others should choose what you are offering over everybody else.
I was going to write about something else today -- I have a couple of big-concept posts I've been meaning to write up and get around to -- but, heck, the last post I put up was a big-concept post so I figured let's have a quick breather from that and get something a little lighter up first. I've been all too guilty of this myself -- sending super-long messages.
This topic came up as I got to an email from a reader. And what I found was that I was often disappointed -- I'd put all this time and effort into a monster of a message, and then... There are a bunch of lessons I eventually took away from those experiences that I'll share with you today.
A very well-spoken and clearly an educated guy, he sent me a message detailing a situation with a girl he knew... The basic gist of today's post is, basically, that this -- what we're about to talk about -- is how you write online dating messages and emails that don't get ignored...
and, in fact, get you exactly what you want: responses, phone numbers, dates, and success.
Over the course of any given month, I get about 40-50 emails from people asking me for dating advice.
Lately I have been noticing a trend amongst the females in which they are not able to get guys to respond to their emails. She is funny and witty and the exact type of girl that any guy would dream of dating. In the past week and a half, she has emailed about 15 different guys and not one has responded to her request for communication.
For illustration purposes, I am going to use my friend Sally who came to me with the exact same problem last week. I took a look at her personality profile, then took a look at her emails and found the root cause of the problem.
I asked her to write an email to one of her matches, but not send it.
People are looking for compatibility, and not for a one night fling - like you find at a bar (again, this is typically the case, not always).