"The clock tends to tick faster for this couple -- one that marries at 27 has some time to be together before they start a family," says Sandra Caron, Ph D, a professor of family relations and human sexuality at the University of Maine.
"This couple won't have that luxury (especially) when she is older." There are some obvious solutions, such as adoption, surrogacy, or being a foster parent, if an older woman can't have children.
Individuals may marry for several reasons, including legal, social, libidinal, emotional, financial, spiritual, and religious purposes.
Whom they marry may be influenced by socially determined rules of incest, prescriptive marriage rules, parental choice and individual desire.
While Asian Americans "only" make up about 5% of the U. Of course, being "Asian" is not necessarily the same as being "Asian American" and I focus on this distinction throughout Asian-Nation.
S.'s population (as of 2008), we are one of the fastest growing racial/ethnic groups (in terms of percentage increase) in the U. The Asian American community has received a lot of scrutiny over the years but in many ways, still remains misunderstood. I also acknowledge that there is a debate over how certain Asian groups should be referred to -- Filipinos or Pilipinos, Koreans or Coreans.
If one partner wants kids and the other doesn't, Luster says you may be able to work through the issue with counseling and acceptance that your idea of a family may have to change.
If you're the older partner, you may already have children from a previous relationship.
"This certainly is one of many kinds of pairings that may look odd to others, but when you start to know them it makes sense," says Rebecca Sears, LPC, a couple's counselor at The Imago Center of DC in Washington, D. "There is something about every couple that makes sense once you get to know them." The trick is to help others understand why you "make sense." Some tactics Sears recommends are: For May-December couples, having children can be an issue.
If a woman is older, she may not want, or be able, to have kids. This doesn't have to be a deal breaker, but it's wise to address it early on in the relationship.
Even today in the cultures of the Middle East, dating is a relatively new concept.