Similar to the magnificence of Heaven, her worth can be likened to the “pearl of great price” that the man went in search of and gave up everything for (Matthew -46).
If we don’t know our own worth, then we may put ourselves in situations where we are looking for the guy taking us out to provide us with our sense of worth.
This part is hard, and Lord knows I haven’t been perfect.
Another woman complained that her ex wouldn’t consider any other opinions as being valid, including hers.
Those are serious issues, of course, and I commend them for exiting those relationships. And likely their controlling and arrogant behavior would exist whether they were believers or not.
But after being in the church for many years and seeing several Christian couples interact with one another, I’m convinced that many would-be happy dating Christians are anxious and joyless simply because they’re putting too much pressure on the relationship. If you like the girl you’re dating, and she actually likes you, then you should probably get married. I proposed to Denise after about six months of dating, but we’ve been (best! Non-Christians won’t get you, and they may call you prude or weird or whatever for intentionally pursuing marriage. Listen and be kind, but you just may have to ignore the naysayers.
Men, if you’re serious about the girl you’re dating (as you should be), then pursue her friendship. Then read , and keep doing point number one listed above. Paul makes over 200 references to union with Christ in the New Testament. Feast on the gospel daily, and allow the power of the Spirit to empower your pursuit of purity.
We may try to act or look a certain way so that our date likes us.
It’s not a bad thing to want to impress others, but our ultimate goal in dating shouldn’t be to please the guy who asked us out. God created women intentionally, unique within all of creation.
It was pretty obvious that there was an attraction between us, but I was a senior and she was a sophomore.
I knew that I’d be heading off to college soon, and I wasn’t quite sure how I felt about a long-distance relationship. Instead, Rebecca and I began a confusing three-year cycle of relationship ambiguity.
He says, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Eph ). When it comes to defining relationships, men take a cue from our culture and many times fail to commit. This is what I did with Rebecca; this is what boys do.